Designing a Life Around Your Core Desires
I am writing to share some thoughts on a concept that's been resonating with me lately — designing our lives around our core desires.
Often, we find ourselves living according to societal expectations or norms, which may deviate from our innate passions and desires. However, by identifying and understanding our core desires, we can align our goals and actions, subsequently creating a life that is genuinely fulfilling and meaningful.
Our core desires are those profound aspirations that truly motivate us — be it creativity, connection, exploration, or achieving mastery in a specific field. They may be buried deep within us, masked by the noise of daily life or drowned out by the demands of our routine.
To uncover these, we might need to introspect, to delve beneath the surface of our consciousness and tune in to our authentic selves. After all, these core desires are the compass guiding us toward our genuine definition of success and fulfillment.
In designing a life around these desires, we may encounter challenges or obstacles. Also, a huge need to hold massive boundaries for ourselves and with others. However, these serve as opportunities for growth and evolution, equipping us with resilience and wisdom.
Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all template for life. It is a personal journey, an ongoing process of learning and adapting. So, take some time, delve into your core desires, and design the life that you truly yearn for.
Each individual's core desires are unique, reflecting their character, experiences, and aspirations. However, there are some common themes that many people tend to gravitate toward:
Growth: This could involve personal or professional development, learning new skills, or continually improving in chosen fields.
Connection: Many individuals desire deep, meaningful relationships, whether familial, romantic, or platonic.
Contribution: The desire to make a meaningful impact, or leave a legacy, is another common core desire.
Autonomy: Independence and the ability to make decisions about one's life are crucial for many.
Adventure: The thirst for new experiences, exploration, and novelty is a common core desire.
Remember, identifying these core desires is just the first step. The challenge lies in designing a life that helps fulfill these desires, creating a cycle of satisfaction and happiness.
Now that you have recognized your core desires, the next step involves a shift from self-reflection to action. I recommend scheduling a meeting with your core desires to see if your decisions are going to support them.
In this meeting with your core desires, think about whether or not your future decisions will align with these. Each decision made should pass through the filter of your core desires. If a decision supports or furthers your core desires, it is worth pursuing. If it does not, then it may need to be reconsidered or adjusted.
Remember, every choice you make, be it personal or professional, should lead you closer to these desires, thereby bringing you closer to your unique definition of fulfillment and happiness.
Wishing you an amazing week filled with all that you desire.
Xoxo Ali
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